This is the third week of the Franklin’s Makeover where MKE members were asked to arrange 12 virtues around ‘kindness’ which was placed second, making 13 in total.
At the top of the list or the first virtue to focus on I put courage. The second for everyone was kindness. In the third position or focus for this week I put decisiveness.
Up to now, and in the MKE course, I can see that I have been practising indecisiveness.
For instance, my DMP or Definite Major Purpose took 12 weeks of major reconstruction downplayed as tweaking. Things went into and out of my DMP like a yo-yo going up and down.
Here are two synonyms for ‘decisiveness’
- decisiveness (n.) the trait of resoluteness as evidenced by firmness of character or purpose. Synonyms: resoluteness. resolve. firmness of purpose. decision. firmness. resolution. …
- decisiveness (n.) the quality of being final or definitely settled. Synonyms: inconclusive. conclusiveness. definiteness. finality. determinateness.
During those 12 weeks my DMP wasn’t resolute. It had no firmness of character. I kept shifting the goalposts, willy nilly. Parts of my DMP rarely resembled finality. I was always deleting, amending, adding,…
Webster’s defines decisive as “having the power or quality of deciding.”
For me, decisiveness represents the ability to make a considered decision and be happy with my choice, and not to double guess myself. What? Wait on. In this ten seconds, I am going to change that to: “For me, decisiveness is the ability to make a decision.” Now, that feels much, much lighter. “I can do that!”
On reflection, having ‘considered decision’ in my first definition of decisiveness is ‘the procrastinator’s way of wanting things to be perfect.’
Holding out for anything to be perfect, has never worked. In the past, this habitual way of operating led to procrastination and built my muscle of uncertainty. As a consequence subby had no clear command to follow. “This guy doesn’t know what he wants. He’s said nothing, so give him nothing.” Say, I was at a restaurant and was practising the ‘no idea’ game. I would be filled with doubts. “Do I want this meal or that meal? Is this one or that one going to satisfy me or disappoint me?” I was setting myself up for failure. More often than not I got exactly what I feared. I was disappointed – a little, a lot. My disappointment peptides just wanted to party inside my house!
At the very top of an article on The Role of Decisiveness in Achieving Results comes:
“A core quality I look for in a manager is decisiveness — I want managers to make decisions and take action. I have yet to find a strong results-focused manager who was not decisive. When decisions need to be made, effective managers gather the facts, analyze the situation, consider alternatives, and decide on the best course of action — and they do it quickly! They don’t procrastinate, and they certainly don’t stand around wringing their hands. They move!”
Given that I have come to be passionate about what is now written on my DMP, the only person I would appoint to be the manager of Grant William Harrison, who knows me better than I know myself, is my Future Self, the Guy in the Glass or the one who is looking back at me through the windows of my soul. This is the person that Og Mandino, in Scroll IV of The Greatest Salesman in the World, refers to when he writes, “I am a unique creature of nature” and “I am nature’s greatest miracle.”
Theodore Roosevelt said,
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
Life is a game to be played, to be enjoyed, to be experienced. By not making a decision, I was making the decision – to not make a decision. No longer will my life be a matter of chance where I have to like it or lump it.
I’ve made a decision to be decisive!
There can be fallout, but nothing catastrophic, because my eyes are wide open now and it’s only healthy feedback from here on in. Just, resetting or tweaking my mindset to follow my compass.
The upshot of the last few days is this: “I choose to sculpt muscles of decisiveness everyday.”
Grant William Harrison
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