I’m 29 minutes into watching Yardley Wang analyze five generations:
- Before 1946 (Mature, WWII, Silent)
- 1946 – 1964 (Baby Boomers)
- 1965 – 1980 (Generation X)
- 1981 – 1994 (Generation Y, Millenials)
- 1995 – (Generation Z)
And he’s talking about Coaching and Managing Baby Boomers – my generation. Three highlights from this slide stand out immediately:
(1) Competitive Want to Win
(2) Written Plan of Action and
(3) Demonstrate teamwork.
My interpretation on the third is I want to see how teamwork works; if it works.
So last night I’m having my first coaching session… (to be continued)
Let’s backtrack a bit here and it might seem like I’m going off in a tangent, however, I trust you will see the links rather than the kinks.
This week, Week 8 of the Master Key Experience we are asked to do a SIT, where we See, Imagine & Think of a battleship out on the water and “Follow it back to its origination, see of what it really consists. If you do this you will develop imagination, insight, perception, and sagacity. These come not by the superficial observation of the multitude, but by a keen analytical observation which sees below the surface.”
If you didn’t balk at the word ‘sagacity’ and took it in your stride and kept reading then you are a better man than I, Gunga Din. And here is another diversion. During the last week as I’m reading the text above and I balk, out pops my right arm before I had time to hear that little voice shout “Do it now!” and I found myself reaching for the dictionary, as I trust you did or will do now.
Subby works no matter what and here I have direct experiential proof that I can change a single habit of “Not now, I’ll get to that later.”
Maybe you can relate to this. I’m 23 years old and I was told or advised, take your pick, to put away some money into superannuation years before it became compulsory by employers to chip in. At the time I thought it was sound advice, but I wanted this and that so I made one of those New Year Eve’s pledges to myself to do so when I was 30. You know it and I didn’t to my regret (a past emotion) and I never did.
So, you might have guessed that I’m a pensioner with no assets and no savings beyond this fortnight’s pension. Not looking for any condolences. Just saying. I didn’t do it now to my own chagrin. Maybe a little work here is needed to let subby know I am grateful to every experience and decision I have made during my life.
That automatic flexing of my right arm reaching out for the dictionary was proof. It strengthened my resolve that I can be what I will to be.
So, almost back to teamwork. I’m chatting to John about the possibility of being coached and out pops one old blueprint excuse—looking for pity. I’ve got a crook knee—torn meniscus and I’ve got a bung arm I threw out playing baseball and for real, playing Slow Pitch Softball in London a few years back. It doesn’t bend or turn as easily as my left arm and wrist.
Anyway, John just heard what I said and mentioned that the Nationals (Australian Veterans Table Tennis) are being played in Adelaide next October, and it only happens every 7 years so there is no need to fork out $3000 for flights and accommodation.
So, the seed is sown. Several times in the next 24 hours the idea popped into my head and I was leaning more towards than away. As I drive up the hill to the gym each day I use my time to do the affirmation “I demand self-confidence.” I do my 30 minutes or so and start to return home.
Within 30 seconds “Do it now” enters my consciousness. I reach for my phone and turn into the next driveway and I ask myself whether I should ring John, meaning I commit and intend to win the national Over 65 event. Well, you see, I have been right-handed all my life and I intend to switch to being a left-hander in a national competition and here is the kicker. My recent experience is that the ball pops up ugly and I am swarmed with embarrassment.
Using a kinesiology technique I get the go ahead. So, I ring John and let him know I want to win at the nationals and will he coach me. He didn’t hesitate. John just said yes. You see, John had more faith than I in me and this was like gold. Someone who believed in me albeit a short acquaintance.
I then said to John, “This is my Mount Everest.’ He replies “This is your Mount Lofty.” For those who haven’t been to Adelaide, South Australia Mount Lofty is about 1800 feet high in comparison with 5 miles or so for Mount Everest. You see, John was bringing me into his reality where ‘my challenge’ was not so daunting. He didn’t say this, but the battleship SIT asks to go below the surface to see what really is happening. His gentle approach, self-assurance, and wisdom are qualities definitely being around.
So last night I’m having my first coaching session. And as Yardley said about Baby Boomers, I’m looking for proof. I participate and was questioning how we could work as a team. It didn’t go as I planned or thought I had planned. Really there was no thought, just subby giving me my past behaviour here. What I did get was a genuine man whose actions showed that he cared about me as a person and kept stretching me beyond my ‘injured crippling level.’ He didn’t entertain any old weaknesses. He simply kept his eye on the vision of what it is going to take to be a champion. And after the session I mentioned about what I need from him and talked about a plan of action and eye exercises.
Just one more thing. During the session another qualified coach, Brian, spoke up, freeing John up to assist hands-on, so I got the feel of correctly hitting the backhand and forehand.
And back to the 29-minute mark of Yardley’s presentation and the three highlights that stood out for me (1) Competitive Want to Win (2) Written Plan of Action and (3) Demonstrate teamwork.
Yes, through table tennis my competitive spirit is something that is being resurrected. Right now, it’s just like one’s ego and needs some tweaking. I definitely wanted a plan of action and I see John and me over another coffee with some art sized paper creating a timeline vision map. And, after seeing the evidence of teamwork in action last night my goal got sharpened, and I created a problem for John. I said straight out to him “I need four sessions of coaching a week.”
One of the good problems where it is win-win. He gets paid more and I get more quality time with an expert. You see, John played at the level I aspire to. He knows what it takes. I liked the way he shared his thinking because the problem wasn’t time or his willingness, the problem was can we get a table to use on four occasions during the week.
Love, light and blessings to each who read
Unite in Unity
Grant William Harrison
Now back to Yardley Wang in the Superheroes Summit, Aloha.